How to Collaborate Like a Stoic: Marcus Aurelius on Working Together Without Conflict

“Neither can I be angry with my brother or fall foul of him, for he and I were born to work together, like a man’s two hands, feet or eyelids, or the upper and lower rows of his teeth. To obstruct each other is against Nature’s law – and what is irritation or aversion but a form of obstruction.”

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 2.1

Stoicism is often seen, explained, and used as an individualistic philosophy. One that requires the practitioners to become solitary people. But Marcus Aurelius reminds us of its interconnectedness: Stoicism is about aligning with nature, and nature is collaborative.

Just as hands and eyes work together without friction, we, too, are born to cooperate. Conflict, irritation, and ego-driven responses are not only unhelpful but also unnatural. We are all linked together, and the individual should always have the community in mind when acting.

How do you collaborate like a Stoic?

1. See the Other as a Partner in Nature

According to Marcus, collaboration is not a choice; it is your nature. When working with others, remind yourself: “We are on the same team.” This helps shift a divisive mindset to a unifying one.

2. Don’t Obstruct — Align

If something goes wrong in a team or relationship, the Stoic response is not to blame, but to realign. Ask: “What role am I playing in this obstruction?” The Stoic collaborator takes responsibility for restoring flow, not assigning fault.

3. Choose Contribution Over Control

Control is often the enemy of cooperation. A Stoic approach to collaboration centers on contribution. You don’t have to dominate; you have to participate wisely and with purpose. By understanding what role you play in a certain situation, you can better assume your responsibilities.

Learning how to collaborate like a Stoic helps you rise above ego, handle friction with grace, and contribute to something larger than yourself. Marcus reminds us: obstruction is the enemy, cooperation is the way.

FAQ: How to Collaborate Like a Stoic

What does Stoicism say about working with others?
Stoicism teaches that human beings are social animals, naturally meant to cooperate. Marcus Aurelius compares people to body parts working in harmony.

How can I handle conflict using Stoic ideas?
Recognize irritation as a disruption of the natural order. Reframe disagreements as opportunities to return to shared purpose and reasoned dialogue.

Is collaboration important in Stoic practice?
Yes. Justice and cooperation are key Stoic virtues. Collaborating well is part of living in accordance with nature and reason.

Want to explore more Stoic strategies?

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Author Bio

Benny Voncken is the founder of Via Stoica and host of The Via Stoica Podcast. He has practiced Stoicism as a way of life for over seven years and draws on almost 15 years of teaching experience to turn dense ancient ideas into daily practice. Since 2023 he has coached clients around the world through one-on-one Stoic coaching. He also leads Stoic walks across Europe, writes the monthly newsletter The Pause, and has spoken at Stoicon.